by Ginger Philbrick
Hitting your computer’s forward button should always be preceded by a moment or two of discernment as to whether the intended recipient wants to receive the mail.
Is it something you find worthy of repeating but they might find an irritating addition to the overload of unwanted mail we all receive? Or do you know that they would appreciate the sharing of this subject?
I have been continually impressed with the humor, as well as the poignancy, that the pandemic has elicited. Friends have sent me the most memorable of pass-alongs which have caused me to grab a tissue to wipe away tears of both hilarity and deep emotion. But because of the volume of mail, I have had to develop a “take what you like and quickly delete the rest” response. And I have realized that some people consider most forwarded material spam.
It is kind to let the person you consider to be an overzealous sender know how you feel. Tactfully. To any one of you who might be tired of my forwarded material, please forgive me. If I have been wrong in my assessment of what you would like to receive, I would appreciate your saying something like this to me: “I think you are a brilliant correspondent and I love hearing from you, but would you please take my name off your forwarding list?” I realize you may want to edit that a bit, but be gentle.
Having said all of that, I just have to share with you the best question I have had forwarded to me, one that would be a good topic for a manners column: “Do we have to tell everyone when social isolation is lifted?”
Ginger Philbrick is the owner of Because You Are Polite….LLC. You are invited to email your manners questions to her and she will respond as time and space allow. You may contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.