by Ginger Philbrick
As we approach this holiday season, we will share time with small, but probably still larger than usual, numbers of family and friends.
Practicing table etiquette is very important. This column has offered brush-ups on that in years past.
However, there is something even more important than table etiquette and even Great Aunt Ruby’s corn pudding that contributes to a gathering’s success—that is good company. I offer the following reminders regarding being a Best Guest for us all to consider:
• Be sure to let your hostess know you are attending and do it in plenty of time for her to prepare food and space for your presence.
• When you arrive, leave your cell phone in the car or turned off in your pocket. If you are expecting a most important call, leave the phone on vibrate in your pocket. Cell phones do not belong on the meal table. If you are hosting, consider having a receptacle at your front door with a sign asking guests to park cell phones there.
• Remember this event is for everyone’s pleasure. Keep interaction free of criticisms, complaints, hot (controversial) topics that might offend someone, and pouting! If something happens that upsets you, retire to the nearest bathroom, breathe deeply and remember there’s probably chocolate nearby to ease the pain.
• In conversations, include all who are standing or sitting close enough to hear and contribute. Being left out of conversations is a common source of awkwardness and unhappiness.
• Ask your host or hostess if you can help in any way. However, don’t keep asking. Let her know that if she needs your assistance, you will happily oblige her. Stay out of her way otherwise. And, hostesses, do ask for help should you feel tension creeping up. Most guests are more than delighted to help, especially where food is concerned.
• Respect the table and those around it by engaging in all the good table manners your mother tried to teach you. If you have any questions on the subject, please email me!
• Honor your hosts. Compliment them on a dish you like or on the beauty of your surroundings, wait for any directions or blessing that might be offered as you come to the table, and as you depart be certain to thank those who invited and entertained you.
• From time to time, stop and focus on all the good around you. Be grateful for companions to share it with. You are blessed.
Ginger Philbrick is the owner of Because You Are Polite LLC. You are invited to email your manners questions to her and she will respond as time and space allow. You may contact her at youarepolite1@gmail.com.
